On November 8, a pregnant woman posted some “baby name” drama on Reddit’s “Am I the A*****e” section, sparking critical responses.
The woman, 27, explained that she and her husband are having a child and that her sister-in-law, 34, is already the mother of four children and is expecting a fifth.
She added that her sister-in-law homeschools her kids, is vegan, forbids gadgets in the house, and only buys all-natural toys and clothing for her children, calling her “the definition of a ‘crunchy’ mom.”
Her sister-in-law “wanted her kids to have distinctive names and not simple names,” the Reddit user added.
“All her kids have weird names,” she continued. Then she enumerated them, giving phonetic pronunciations for each: “Baryleen” (pronounced “Bryan”), “Falkin” (pronounced “Falkin”), “Rorai” (pronounced “Rori”), and “Kelvin” (pronounced Calvin).
She said, “My sister-in-law asked me what I thought about the names ‘Astra,’ ‘Inky,’ or ‘Lore’ for her upcoming child.
The poster said that she and her husband have decided to give their soon-to-be-born child the more popular name “James.” The sister-in-law then launched into “a rage,” saying that the kid of the poster “is going to have a plain name and not be remarkable.”
The Reddit user resisted. The author stated that I informed her that she was naming children, not dogs and that her children would detest their names as they grew older.
The author said that she became furious, yelling at me that I was impolite and that children’s names are more than just names. After that, “she stormed out of my house.”
In her subsequent post, she revealed that her mother-in-law and brother-in-law had been contacting her “all day” to complain that she was being “mean and unpleasant” and that she should apologize to her sister-in-law.
The Reddit user wrote, “My husband agrees that someone ought to warn her she’s giving these babies terrible names.”
But she said, “I feel horrible, as though I ought to apologize. It wasn’t my place to speak.”
The pregnant woman concluded her message by saying, “I’m so sick of her mom shaming me.”
an absence of regard
According to Dr. Jayme Albin, a psychotherapist in New York City, the sisters-in-disagreement law reveals much more about their relationship than it does about the baby’s name, she told Fox News Digital in an email.
Albin says the two women “obviously don’t respect each other.”
The psychologist said, “When someone asks for your opinion, consider your level of respect for the other person. How close is the connection? How long have you two been friends, and how well are you acquainted? This should influence how long and in-depth your response is.”
Albin suggested that visitors “Peruse the space. Read the circumstances.”
For instance, if you and your sister-in-law don’t have in-depth discussions, avoid having them on how each of you should parent.
Albin suggested that it can be beneficial to ask the other person how far they want you to go while discussing delicate subjects.
I always advise prudence, and you can always provide more later. You may also inquire, “Do you want me to continue?” she added.
The “baby name disgrace” became a popular topic on the subreddit, receiving 1,500 responses in less than a day. Regarding the women’s dispute, one Reddit user stated flatly, “She asked your opinion – you delivered.”
Another individual stated, “My sister chooses somewhat unusual names. But she never sought my input or made fun of my children’s names.”
I informed her that she was naming children, not dogs, and warned her that her children would detest their names as they grew older.
The commentator said, “Some individuals adore their simple, everyday names. You cannot know in advance. Try your best and accept it. And refrain from soliciting feedback if you aren’t ready for an inadequate response.”
On Reddit, many users used original names to describe their experiences.
Someone commented, “My dad’s middle name is “Brian,” and my brother is “Brinn.” My brother’s second-grade teacher argued that his middle name was “Brian” and that he was incorrectly typing his middle name.”
Someone commented, “My dad’s middle name is “Brian,” and my brother is “Brinn.” My brother’s second-grade teacher argued that his middle name was “Brian” and that he was incorrectly typing his middle name.”
Added the commenter: “I always spell out my last name when I have to offer it, but people still ask. Then I hear the infamous joke about “buying a vowel” Ugh.”
